My wife of 22 years doesn't feel any desire for me. She could do without sex all together. I waited until both our kids where at college and I thought maybe then, but she has no desire. I try to be tender, caring, gentle, aggressive, funny, serious. I don't know what to do. I took a vow. I want her face to be the last thing I see before I die, but I'm 43 and I want to have sex, I want to make love, I want to experiment, I want to feel good and make her feel good too. I am so lost.
Is your wife older than you? Maybe she is going through the change. Or maybe she has the empty nest syndrome…since the kids are gone. Just keep up what you are doing. Listen to her when she speaks…be sweet…and gentle and NEVER stop trying. Sounds like you are very romantic. I wish my husband was that way. She'll come around. Try a nice sensual bubble bath or suggest a seductive night of dinner, dancing and love making…get her favorite wine and music all set and let what happens…happen. NEVER…NEVER rush! that's such a turn off. Good luck. Sounds like she is just depressed…but loves you and she'll come around when realizes you went to all this trouble.
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March 30th, 2006 at 11:36 am
Talk to her! Ask her what she wants, then make it better. Women are confusing, that's why you must communicate with her. Tell her what you want, then ask what she wants.
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March 30th, 2006 at 11:37 am
u both go to view a porn movie.
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March 30th, 2006 at 11:37 am
Maybe its time you both sought some marriage counseling, not having sex is not good for a marriage.
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March 30th, 2006 at 11:38 am
now m lost too …..are u really serious….. good lady prob
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March 30th, 2006 at 11:38 am
If both of your children have just left the nest, your wife could be experiencing empty nest syndrome. An empty house doesn't quite always affect women as it does men. To a woman, a empty house often makes her feel useless, just as men often start to feel after retiring. Her self esteem may be at an all time low, especially with menopause to set in over the next several years. Help her to find things she loves, maybe a pottery or flower arranging class. Once she starts to feel alive again, maybe that desire will find her.
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March 30th, 2006 at 11:41 am
Im not sure maybe she is sick of the same old thing…try something Exiciting or doing it somewhere strange like when u were young…Thats so sweet ur so devoted to ur wife I just had to comment.
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March 30th, 2006 at 11:42 am
Is your wife older than you? Maybe she is going through the change. Or maybe she has the empty nest syndrome…since the kids are gone. Just keep up what you are doing. Listen to her when she speaks…be sweet…and gentle and NEVER stop trying. Sounds like you are very romantic. I wish my husband was that way. She'll come around. Try a nice sensual bubble bath or suggest a seductive night of dinner, dancing and love making…get her favorite wine and music all set and let what happens…happen. NEVER…NEVER rush! that's such a turn off. Good luck. Sounds like she is just depressed…but loves you and she'll come around when realizes you went to all this trouble.
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April 10th, 2010 at 9:42 pm
My wife is the same & I’ve lost my patience-not having sex is deadly.
Woman are emotional abusers-they will constantly tear you apart & then genuinely wonder why you want nothing to do with them after awhile-then they ask us why we have a problem & that we need help.
My advice is to start looking pal cause she’s not worth it!