How do I get my wife to want to make love to me?

My wife of 22 years doesn't feel any desire for me. She could do without sex all together. I waited until both our kids where at college and I thought maybe then, but she has no desire. I try to be tender, caring, gentle, aggressive, funny, serious. I don't know what to do. I took a vow. I want her face to be the last thing I see before I die, but I'm 43 and I want to have sex, I want to make love, I want to experiment, I want to feel good and make her feel good too. I am so lost.

Is your wife older than you? Maybe she is going through the change. Or maybe she has the empty nest syndrome…since the kids are gone. Just keep up what you are doing. Listen to her when she speaks…be sweet…and gentle and NEVER stop trying. Sounds like you are very romantic. I wish my husband was that way. She'll come around. Try a nice sensual bubble bath or suggest a seductive night of dinner, dancing and love making…get her favorite wine and music all set and let what happens…happen. NEVER…NEVER rush! that's such a turn off. Good luck. Sounds like she is just depressed…but loves you and she'll come around when realizes you went to all this trouble.

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I've got love, all the sex I want, own a home, and make good money. Why do I feel so much ennui?

Can you spare me the god stuff. Thank you ever so much.

You might be missing things that once made you feel like yourself. A lover, sex, home, and money are fine, but they all came after a certain point in your life. What did you have before? How did you spend time with yourself? What are you doing for yourself now? It's hard, especially when you get into the mood of reflecting on it. I used to write, but I let other parts of my life (like my love, my work, or just being tired) numb it out of me. I'm trying to get it back.

Spend some time with yourself, figure out a few things that you'd like to accomplish for your own enjoyment, and do them - you can feel free to share with others. You might find everyone around you suddenly happier.

Ennui. I suppose that's why we're sitting in front of monitors, trying to feel something real, something different. I think I'll go for some air now.

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The wrong kind of love

A lot of people have the wrong kind of love and don’t even know
it. If you are experiencing any of the following issues I have
listed in this article, then you definitely have that wrong kind
of love. You can try to fix it, if you have the time and
patience, and if you think that there is something special about
your guy. But if all you are getting from him is lots of
heartache, then it is time to dump the load that is weighing you
down and move on. Now let’s get to it. If you have any of the
following in your current relationship, you have a serious
decision to make:

Your man verbally abuses you on a daily basis - Does your man
get his high from berating you every chance he gets? He tells
you how you just don’t know anything - you are dumb, fat, and
stupid. He has no regard for your opinion or feelings about any
subject. Even when you go out of your way to prepare his
favorite dish for him, he never has anything positive to say. If
this is the kind of man you have in your life, you need to think
seriously about finding a healthy relationship - one that builds
your self-esteem and values what you bring to the table. As a
result of the verbal abuse, you may have developed anxiety
attacks that make your life a living hell. According to the
creator of the Linden Method that guarantees to cure anxiety
attacks, Charles Linden, “You aren’t going mad, you are one of
20 million people in the USA alone who suffer with ANXIETY
DISORDER and/or PANIC DISORDER and if that is the case, I
promise you that this is the most important website you will
ever find.”

From time to time, he physically abuses you - If he gets angry
and pushes or slaps you around to let you know he is the boss,
you absolutely do not have the right kind of guy. Now bear in
mind that some guys are able to change this behavior, but you
must give your particular situation some serious thought. Start
by getting professional help.

Just because he apologizes and tells you he loves you with all
his heart, after beating you into a pulp, does not mean he loves
you. If this is his way of expressing his love for you, then you
don’t want this kind of love. You could wind up in a ditch
somewhere, if you are not proactive about changing your
situation. Access the link above now, do not waste one more
minute.

He feels he is doing you a favor by staying with you - Does he
make you feel that he is doing you a favor by being with you? Is
your love life starting to feel like “Sympathy Love?” When you
cry about how he is treating you, he feels bad and hangs around.
Stop it. If your guy cannot love you for who you are, then there
is absolutely no reason why you should continue that kind of
relationship. Your guy ought to be happy to be with you. If he
is not, then you ought to let him go. You will be better off
when you finally find a man that derives joy from fulfilling
your heart’s romantic desires.

He never makes any effort to spend quality time with you - It is
common sense that people want to spend time with those they love
and care, while staying far away from those they despise or
barely tolerate. What it boils down to is this; if you have to
force him to make time for you, especially when he is not too
busy with work, then that is a big hint that he does not want to
be around you. Don’t wait around to be hit with a big stick for
you to get it through your head.

He flirts with other women in your presence - This is one of the
worst forms of disrespect. Flirting with another woman in your
presence is a rude and crude way of letting you know that what
you feel or think is immaterial. It is a way of telling you, “If
you like, you can leave me or you can stay, but I will do what I
want with whoever I want.” There is no way you can have a happy
relationship without respect.

He goes out on the weekends and comes home the next day - This
is worse than flirting with another woman in your presence. If
this happens often then that is a strong clue that he is having
an affair and really wants to move on with his life, but doesn’t

quite know how to verbalize it.

He is constantly trying to lie his way out of a lie - This one
ties right into the last point - coming home the next day when
he goes out on weekends. If he is telling a lie to get himself
out of the last one he told, then it is time for you to move on,
unless of course you want to drain your energy and enthusiasm
for life with a loser. Before you go, you can do some detective
work yourself to get the hard evidence you need to bust him and
his lies.

He is not supportive of your goals and aspirations - If he is
not supportive of your goals and aspirations, it means that he
does not value you or what you want to do with your life. Love
cannot last when one party’s dreams and goals are the only ones
being pursued, discussed or nurtured.

No matter how bad your situation is, you can change your
situation. Learn how to get your man to fall madly in love by
getting a copy of Passion Keys at smartwomansguide.com. You will
learn the quickest way to take romantic relationship to a whole
new level.

If you are unsure if your current relationship can be salvaged,
try to get the objective opinions of trusted family members.
Often times they are able to help you decide whether to stay in
your relationship and work things out or simply grab your bag
and turn a new leaf. If you do make the decision to move on, you
want to make sure you do not jump into the arms of the next
sweet-looking devil you run into. You can’t afford to make the
mistake of having lightening strike you twice. Looks can be
deceiving. Just because a man looks gentle and acts like he has
princely manners, does not mean he is a nice guy. Bad guys know
how to act nice, until they know you have fallen in love with
them.

Take your time to get to know the next guy you want to be
romantically involved with. Find out who he really is, and not
who he appears to be.

Find out how to get your man to give you the right kind of love
by visiting: http://www.smartwomansguide.com.

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